The Good Fortune of Others
From Music and the SpokenWord
Delivered By: Lloyd D. Newell • Program 4201
A high school senior answered her phone, just hours before she was to address her graduating class as valedictorian. On the other end she heard a voice she recognized. It was Sandy. She and Sandy often vied for the same honors and positions. Sandy usually took second. But that day, Sandy was first in the eyes of her rival, because of what she said: “I hope you do well today. I know you can do it. I’ll be right there cheering you on.”
Who succeeded that day? Certainly the young woman speaking from the podium was touted as a success. But that afternoon she had learned the lesson of a lifetime from second-place Sandy. Someone wisely said that “one of the sanest, surest, and most generous joys of life comes from being happy over the good fortune of others.”1
How often do we support or applaud those who have succeeded, even if it came at our own expense? Or do we complain and cast a sour comment at their accomplishment? Do we offer true congratulations, or do we enviously shrink from the moment, wishing we had done so well?
It’s easy to extol the success of someone who comes from behind—unless they come from behind us. In our success-driven world we sometimes revel in comparisons and judgments; we seem to think that discounting another’s advances will somehow make us feel better about ourselves.
But life is not a pie with only so many pieces. Celebrating the success of others takes us closer to, not farther from, our own victory. When we invest attention and energy in the people around us, their accomplishments become ours and we’re more likely to fully see and appreciate true greatness.
1 Attributed to Archibald Rutledge; see http://quotationsbook.com/quote/2798
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