The If kind of love says:
I will love you if you do things my way,
if you give me gifts,
if you become a good provider.
if you get a good report card at school.
It is a conditional love based upon future expectations.
If these conditions are not met
then like a legal contract,
love, is broken.
This is a selfish love
because it is solely based upon future expectations.
It is love that must be earned.
Most marriages fail
because they are based upon this conditional love.
Children are often heard saying
"I will be your friend,
if you let me play with your new toy
till then I hate you."
Thus, the if kind of love is a fickle unstable love.
This is the childish love we are all born with.
It is a worldly love of natural instincts.
We need to mature out of the if kind of love...
The Because Of kind of love says:
I will love you because you are now young and beautiful,
because I now desire you,
because you are now popular,
because you are now in good health or wealthy,
because I feel good when I am with you.
This kind of love is common among teenagers
because it is solely based upon the others current status.
The because kind of love is also doomed to failure in marriage.
When someone proclaims
"I have fallen out of love,"
they have fallen out of the because of kind of love.
This kind of love is not in tune with reality
when it demands that things stay the same
in an ever changing world.
Like the if kind of love,
it is unstable and fickle.
It is full of doubts and fears
for what tomorrow might bring.
True love is the In Spite Of kind of love.
It says:
I love you in spite of your faults,
in spite of being fat and ugly,
in spite of the times you are selfish and inconsiderate,
or when you sin against me.
True love is unconditional.
It is the love that God loves us with.
It is a love we don't naturally possess,
but must learn.
It is an enduring love
that doesn't even keep a score card.
It will always be there tomorrow
regardless of what we have done today.
This is the kind of love
that 50th "golden" anniversaries are made of.
1 comment:
this is cute! i can't wait to find in spite of love (well with a boy! haha)
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